Children are generally affected adversely by divorce. It is the responsibility of the parents to see to it that the divorce is as stress-free and as minimally disruptive to the lives of the children as possible. Parents should let children know they are not losing the other parent but rather will be a part of the lives of both parents on a sharing basis for the rest of their lives.
It is also important to note that children create a unique situation in any divorce case in that the case is never really over, but rather is the subject of further negotiations and perhaps trips to court in the future over what is in the best interest of the children.
It's important that parents place the interests of their children first and set aside their personal feelings of anger, betrayal, distrust, abandonment and focus on what's best for their children. Often times parents need help doing this and that can require the retention of a child custody mediator or therapist.
Our firm has dealt with thousands of contested custody matters and has established ties to the professional community of experts that deal with these issues in and out of court. No matter what, we listen to your perspective on these issues and provide you with the guidance you need to properly evaluate and make decisions regarding the most important issue in the divorce: your children.